Monday, October 29, 2012

As A Leader You Feel Ready, But Ready For What? - Leadership and Change

One of my favorite quotes is from an executive in Europe who said, “You feel ready, but ready for what?” 

His question addressed the angst of increasingly more leaders. Many leaders and small business owners tell me that they feel ill-prepared for today’s complex environment. With increased connectivity come strong and too often unknown interdependencies. For this reason, the ultimate result of these decisions has been poorly understood. 

Nevertheless, decisions must be made. 

As leaders turn their attention to growth strategies many have told us their success depends on doubling their revenue over the next five years. The services that contribute to the lion’s share of their revenue today will be the second largest source of revenue in five years. Finding new growth strategies is not easy in a complex and uncertain environment.

This means leaders must shake up their business models, old ways of thinking, and long held assumptions. They have to address what customers now care about and reassess engagement with employees to create optimal value. 

Leaders must learn to be comfortable with complexity and uncertainty. They have to see disruption in one form or another as an opportunity. 

Another leader said, “The Great recession has been a wakeup call. It felt like looking in the dark with no light at the end of the tunnel.” 

So, what can you do? Create a nimble and adaptive organization. One not disrupted by complexity. Innovate your management and leadership styles for an unconventional new normal. Create new approaches to better understand customers and engage employees. 

 

 

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

These 8 Steps to Authentic Leadership Leads to Growth


Sooner or later every leader realizes that 99% of the people he depends on for success don’t report to him.  Authentic leadership relies on persuasion and persuasion relies on trust. Trust is the most important asset that any organization, brand, product, leader, or individual can have.  Most importantly, trust is not a scarce resource. We can all have more than we need.  However, trust is fragile: Once squandered it is often impossible to regain.  Here are 8 ways to guarantee that you, your product, your brand, and your company will always be trusted.
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Several months after taking a new job as head of sales and marketing for a software company, the head of another department came into my office and said, “I think you have a commitment problem.”  She said she had given me several suggestions yet there was no evidence that I was acting on any of them.
“I do have a commitment problem,” I replied. “I am fanatical about keeping them.” I told her that I never commit to more than ten things at a time, and showed her a document containing her suggestions as well as my ten top priorities. I said that if she could make a case for replacing one of my priorities with one of hers I would gladly listen.  She ended up agreeing with my priorities, and this rocky start actually led to a deep personal friendship and the most trusting and productive relationship of my entire career.
Love may make the world go round, but even love depends on trust.  Trust between the United States and Canada produced the longest unguarded border in the history of mankind saving untold billions in defense expenditures and economic friction.  I was in Russia recently and a woman summed up Russia’s tragic and enduring problems with, “There is no trust in Russia.” We accept bits of valueless paper called currency in exchange for goods and services because we trust others to do the same, and I wouldn’t dare climb into my car if I didn’t trust you to obey traffic laws.  Without trust the world quickly descends into William James’ “Bloomin’, buzzin’, confusion.”
The first secret to trust is keeping promises. Trust depends on promise and fulfillment or what lawyers call contracts.  Few realize that corporate profit and loss statements consist of promises not money.  There is no cash or “real money” on the P&L; instead the meat is accounts receivable and accounts payable which are merely promises to pay for goods and services already rendered or received.  In my own company we considered keeping promises so mission critical that we implemented formal internal and external processes for making, tracking, and fulfilling promises.  For example, despite being a perpetually cash starved startup we paid our vendors on time simply because this is what we had promised to do even if it meant I didn’t get a pay check.
To build trust we also must be willing to make promises and this is the second step.  One of the most difficult management challenges I ever encountered was getting others to use goal language. We often assume that if we don’t make promises we will never have to worry about breaking them.  So we hide behind “I’ll try” rather than “I’ll do” in an attempt to side step accountability through ambiguity, equivalence, obfuscation, or even downright double talk.  Unfortunately this stratagem merely signals a person who can’t trust himself, and someone who can’t trust himself is never trusted by others.  We all want solid commitments from others and this means we must be willing to offer accountability ourselves.
The third secret to establishing trust is to under commit and over deliver.  Over promising is the flip side to under promising and just as damaging. Negotiating up front is far more effective in creating and maintaining trust than the inevitable excuses that arise when a promise is not fulfilled. We overcommit because we want others to like us, but the best way to ruin a relationship is by not following through on our promises.
The fourth secret to trust is proactive communication. I recently read an article in the Wall Street Journal (don’t ask why!) evaluating various firms that clean and preserve bridal dresses.  An expensive process that takes months, one firm dazzled the article’s author by sending weekly progress reports. As fallible human beings we will never keep all our promises, but no matter how compelling our excuses may be for failing to deliver on time and on budget there is no excuse for not giving others a heads up.   Keeping everyone in the loop is not just common courtesy it is essential.  If the news is good people can relax, and if the news is bad there is plenty of time to go to plan B. In the story I related above, my mistake was in not communicating therefore forcing my colleague to confront me in the first place about her suggestions.
The fifth secret is don’t cut corners. We are far better off doing a few critical things to the nth degree than a lot of things with a “good enough” attitude. Cutting corners assumes that no one will notice, and this adds insult to injury because it implicitly treats others as if they were too damn stupid to notice.
The sixth key to trust is never hide mistakes.  Inevitably some of our mistakes will be discovered and when they are any rational observer will assume that where there is one there are others yet to be discovered.  Autonomy or being our own boss is what turns work into fun, and hiding mistakes is the quickest way to trade hands off autonomy for a hands on boss or regulatory agency anxiously monitoring our every move.  Also beware of excuses; a simple apology is far more effective in maintaining trust than a box car full of trumped up excuses and finger pointing.
The seventh trust building secret is purifying motivations.  Putting our own agenda first always dooms trust.  Others rapidly see through the smoke screen, and from then on every move we make is screened for ulterior motivations real or imagined.  Conversely, team players who put the interests of others ahead of their own accrue the incredible power that only trust can bestow.
The final secret to trust is never make people ask.  When you repay a debt or fulfill an obligation without being reminded you get ten times the trust building credit that you would otherwise.   Nobody likes hounding a company or an individual to fulfill a promise, and when you add this emotional cost it is always subtracted from your treasury of trust.  For example, when your friends must remind you to pick up the check once in a while you end up picking up more than your share of the checks while getting little or no credit for the gesture.  When I forced my colleague to come to me about her suggestions I was guilty of violating this simple rule which put me on the defensive.
Louis R. Mobley my mentor and the founder of the IBM Executive School said that what makes business possible is trust.  In our own company, for example, our commitment to building trust meant going from a tiny start up to eventual acquisition without ever suing or being sued while collecting over 99% of our receivables without ever running a credit check. A society, company, brand, product or individual can never have too much trust, and if you follow the simple steps outlined above I guarantee you will always have all the trust you need to be successful. via forbes.com
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Find Courage to End Your Abuse

Don't ever permit another person to belittle you. To make you feel small, as though your individual ideas and concerns don't matter. And when you rise each day slogging to a job where they don't respect your talent and integrity ....... press on ahead. If you are in an abusive relationship it is time to stop rehabilitating and get out. I believe in you. This is your time. Right now. And I promise to have your back. Jim 

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Monday, October 22, 2012

Living Fearlessly and Being Courageous: What Does That Mean? Martha Pasternack

 

Living fearlessly is not about being tougher than the next guy, or being immune to feeling afraid in the grips of a perceived danger, or feeling overly confident in the presence of the unknown. It is not about overcoming fear, either. It is more about befriending fear and loving yourself just the way you are, really.

Living fearlessly is also about being courageous. It is about being fearlessly courageous. Courageous. Courage. What is courage?

Let's go to my computer's dictionary and see what it says about courage. It says that courage is "the ability to do something that frightens one." Courage is "having strength in the face of pain or grief."

Courage is the ability to act on one's beliefs despite danger or disapproval. Courage is also called daring, audacity, boldness, grit, true grit, hardihood, heroism, and gallantry, among other things. Wow.

Now we know what the dictionary says, but what is the lived experience of being courageous?

The first time I was intellectually introduced to the origin of the word "courage" was in the summer of 1976. I was a 23-year-old on a Hurricane Island Outward Bound course.

The mysterious and mighty waters of Penobscot Bay and the tidal rivers of midcoast Maine were my training ground. My group was called a "mobile watch," which meant we travelled from island to island and river to river rather than being stationed on Hurricane Island itself. We were never indoors the entire month. I was immersed in the natural world and I was never happier or more scared.

During the course I learned many things that guide me still. I learned that the word "courage" had roots in old French: coeur ("heart"), from the Latin word for heart, cor.

So, therefore, to have courage meant moving from my heart in the face of being afraid, and I was often afraid. Prior to that, I thought of courage merely as bravery and believed that one needed to be big and strong to be brave.

Well, I wasn't big and strong. In fact, I felt pretty tiny in the marine wilderness. Yet I was humbly calling for courage daily as I was challenged to complete our tasks. I have shared some of them here: maneuvering an outdoors ropes course, jumping off a pier into the cold Atlantic, rapelling granite cliffs at the ocean's edge in Acadia National Park, weathering powerful rainstorms in a 26-foot open pulling boat (a row boat), and being physically, emotionally and spiritually vulnerable with strangers.

Trusting strangers with my life was the most challenging by far. Yet I found my personal courage to do these things as I mastered the fear that tried to stop me.

Since 1976, life has offered me countless opportunities to practice being courageous, and I confess that I don't always find my courage. In fact, I am still learning about it every day.

Today, whenever I am curious and want to understand courage more deeply, all I have to do is go outside and turn to the natural world all around me.

There, I see the baby bird stepping off the edge of the nest to fly, because that is what chicks do -- they find the courage to fly.

I see the seed surviving drought and sprouting after the summer monsoons finally arrive, because that is what seeds do -- they find the courage to sprout.

I watch the ducklings following their mother downriver without thought of where she might be leading them, because that is what ducklings do -- they find the courage to float downriver, following their mother.

I see the cottonwoods bend with the fierce wind that precedes the thunderstorm, because that is what cottonwoods do -- they find the courage to yield to a power greater than themselves in the moment.

I see the willows growing again after being trimmed back, simply because that is what willows do -- they find the courage to grow again.

I see the chipmunk pup emerging from the underground sanctuary called his nest for the first time, because that is what chipmunk pups do -- they find the courage to pop out of their nests and run around.

I see the goslings take flight and practice the V formation in preparation for a long migration south come autumn, because that is what geese do -- they find the courage to go south.

I see the doe with her fawn crossing the river in search of new tender leaves, fully exposing herself and her baby to predation, because that is what deer do -- they find the courage to risk their lives and munch everything they can munch to fatten up for winter.

I see a tree that grows from a barren and cracked rock sucking nutrients from imperceptible soil, because that is what trees do -- they find the courage to defy the impossible and reach for the sun.

How about the first day of school for the kindergartner, or the first steps taken by the infant-soon-to-be-toddler? That is just what they do -- they find the courage to grow up.

The modeling of courage in nature is an endless stream of purposeful and courageous action that offers lessons on the lived experience of courage every day and every night.

But don't believe me. Go out into nature and see for yourself. Go with courage. Go with confidence. Go with discernment. And as Rhonda Britten would say, be fearless.

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Sunday, October 21, 2012

Learning unconditional respect, honor, and love for yourself

Words have an energy frequency that affects the molecular structure of water. Because the body is 75 to 90 percent water, we are affected by words. Not only can words hurt us emotionally, but the ones that we choose to use represent the flow of our subconscious mind.

One of my patients, Jennifer, was 13 in 1967 and excited about being invited to her first “teenage” party. When she told her friend about the invitation, her companion responded, “No boy will ever want to dance with you.” At the time of those remarks, Jennifer and her friend were eating tuna salad. When Jennifer began dressing for the party hours after the conversation, her nose and lips started to swell. Her parents took Jennifer to the emergency clinic, and the doctor declared that she was allergic to fish. From that point forward—over the next 35 years—Jennifer never ate fish, and if she was around while it was being cooked, she had an allergic reaction.

Using the words and intention of Infinite Love & Gratitude, I harmonized the internalized thoughts, feelings, and beliefs associated with Jennifer’s memory. She no longer has any allergic reaction to fish and enjoys eating it on a regular basis.

Words can have a profound, life-altering positive impact—or they can create intensely negative, devastating effects. Think about the words used when you have a disagreement with your spouse or significant other, or when you receive criticism from your parents or praise from your boss. How do words affect you when your siblings, friends, or co-workers tease you? If you don’t respond to them right away, what energy frequencies are rumbling around your body as a result?

Some words that you use every day have a similar impact. Close your eyes and say the words: my, try, can’t. What feelings do they evoke in you?

Let’s start with the word my. It means “belonging to or done by me.” So what happens when you use my to describe a symptom or disease? “My migraine headache is killing me.” "My allergies are making me sneeze like crazy.” “My arthritis won’t let me stand up for long periods.” “My diabetes is acting up.”

When you use the word my when speaking of a symptom or a disease, you create an identity as if the condition defines you. That’s dangerous! Adding the word my means that the symptom belongs to you. The truth is that the ache or other dysfunction is a sign that there’s an imbalance in your system, and your body is attempting to get your attention. When you qualify the headache by calling it “my headache,” it sends a negative message to your body, and the cycle of breakdown continues. In addition, when you participate in verbal patterns of communication that are pessimistic or limiting in any way, the body has to take on another opponent—you. It’s hard to defend against yourself. It’s like shadowboxing: The opponent ducks every time you do.

This is what I recommend: When you talk about a symptom, make it the pain instead of my pain—the pain in my head, the pain in my stomach, or the pain in my back. At the same time, you should own your body parts—that is—my head, my stomach, or my back. But don’t say my arthritis, my multiple sclerosis, or my Parkinson’s disease. When you do, you’re just solidifying dysfunction as being a part of you.

During a recent service, our rabbi gave a wonderful sermon. He talked about a little boy who showed his teacher a picture of the earth. As an experiment, the teacher tore it into little pieces and instructed the boy to put them back together again. In a short amount of time, the child came back with the picture taped together.

“How did you do it so fast?” the teacher asked.

“On the other side of the earth was the picture of one person,” the child responded. “Putting that one person back together helped me put the earth back together.”

In order to heal the earth you must first put yourself back together—you must heal your own life. The words my, can’t and try are representative of the state of imbalance and dis-ease in your subconscious mind. My, can’t, and try are symptoms of the subconscious mind’s perpetration of harm against the body. Own your power by doing your best: Unconditionally respect, honor, and love yourself by choosing to take responsibility for the words you use. The impact of your choice will send a ripple outward to heal the earth, one person at a time.

Excerpted from The Power of Infinite Love & Gratitude by Dr. Darren R. Weissman. Copyright © 2005 (Hay House).

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Saturday, October 20, 2012

How to Eliminate Disempowering Mental Clutter - John Demartini

Here’s an exercise I call “distraction resolution.” It helps you stay focused on what’s important while heightening your congruency between activities and values, as well as goals.
Here’s how you do it:
  • Make a list of every single thing that’s taking up space and time in your mind, whether it’s personal, business, physical, or financial; anything you did and feel guilty about; or something you need to do a day, week, month, or year from now. Jot down anything that’s distracting you from being present in the here and now.  Follow your stream of consciousness and clear it out of your mind by writing it down.
  • Once you’re done—not while you’re writing, but after you’ve spent about ten minutes getting it all out—look at the list you’ve created and see if there’s anything in there that’s junk. Ask yourself. Is there anything here that I can’t do anything about? Is there anything in my head that I can just get rid of?
  • Now consider if there’s anyone whom you can delegate the remainder to. Or are you holding yourself back because you haven’t been exercising the skill of delegation (whether that’s because you’re unskilled or you don’t think there’s anyone who can handle this for you)? You’ll be surprised by how many things you’re doing that are actually low priority—and that you could be delegating to someone else. Who could do this instead? Put that person’s initials next to the item.
  • If there are things there for you to do—things that you know would be best done by you, and you know that you can do something about them—write your initials beside them and assign a date for beginning that item. Be realistic, and if it’s a long-term project, go ahead and chunk it down into smaller pieces, and decide to delegate or date those pieces for yourself.
The follow-up is simple: Once you’ve noticed the things that can be dumped, it’s easy to just “take them out” of your mind. And if you find yourself thinking about them again, you can remind yourself: Oh yeah, that was one of those things that I’m not going to do anything about. Next! Then you can delegate those items you’ve chosen to, and you can integrate your own tasks and projects into whatever scheduling system you already use. Then you can forget about all those items and focus on what’s important to do today.
This is the difference between efficiency and effectiveness: Efficiency means getting everything done that needs doing in a timely and professional manner, and effectiveness means doing only those things that are important enough to get done. You can have both if you (1) align your activities, values, and goals; (2) delegate everything that wouldn’t wisely be done by you; and (3) dump anything that’s just “junk.” With this exercise, you identify distractions, dumps, delegations, do’s, and dates. You clear your mind and create congruency between your actions and dreams.
Excerpted from The Riches Within: Your Seven Secret Treasures by Dr. John F. Demartini. Copyright ©2008 (Hay House)
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Monday, October 15, 2012

How to Set Goals Without Caring About the Outcome

Are you confused between the difference between setting goals and being attached to outcomes? Learn the big difference between these two.
Many people experience confusion regarding the difference between setting goals and letting go of attachment to outcomes. A client and I were discussing being in the moment with her work, rather than stressing about the outcome. "Then how can you set goals for yourself? Everyone sets goals based on the outcome. Why else would you even set goals or try to accomplish anything?"
Setting goals is a very positive and powerful thing to do. Setting goals helps us take the loving action we need to take in our own behalf, to accomplish the things we desire to achieve.
However, setting goals and working toward accomplishing those goals is very different than attaching our happiness, worth and well being to achieving those goals. If we attach our happiness and worth to accomplishing our goals, then we will never feel happy until we have what we want. And, because most of us continue to create new goals once we accomplish our previous goals, this means never being happy or feeling worthy. As long as we attach our happiness and worth to accomplishing our goals, we can never be happy in the moment. There is always the proverbial carrot dangling in front of us, and we never reach it. No matter how much we have and accomplish, the carrot is always there. This is why there are so many successful people who are very unhappy and never feel that they are good enough.
Goals are wonderful, and achieving them is fun, but happiness is right now -- being fully present with all that you have. Your sense of worth needs to be based on your intrinsic qualities -- your goodness and ability to love, your compassion, caring, and understanding -- rather than on achieving goals.
Attaching your happiness to outcomes is what causes distress. As soon as you attach your happiness, worth and wellbeing to something -- to connection with someone, to money, things, approval, success, and so on -- you then want control over getting what you want. And it is your controlling behavior that causes your distress. Not only does the attachment itself cause anxiety because you might ruminate on getting what you want, but all the things you do to attempt to control the outcome keeps you from being present to your experience of life in the moment.
Taking loving action in order to accomplish your goals is not the same as trying to control the outcome. Loving actions may include hard work, staying open to learning, being honest and acting with integrity, being on time, following through on commitments, caring about others, and so on. Controlling actions may include lying, using others, ruminating, getting angry or defensive, being closed to learning and so on. Controlling behaviors not only make it harder to manifest what you want, but these behaviors often result in feeling alone and unworthy.
When you are willing to accept that you are not in charge of outcomes, you can be fully present in this moment, connected with the inner guidance that will help you to achieve your goals. It's wonderful to want to be in a loving relationship, to be rich, to have a baby, to be accomplished in your chosen profession, to lose weight or be healthy, to buy a new house or new car, to plan for a vacation, and so on. It's wonderful to do all you can do physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually to achieve your goals. But if your happiness and sense of worth is dependent on achieving these goals, and if you spend your time trying to control the outcome of things, you will not be a happy person and you will not feel worthy, even if you achieve all of your goals.
Do all you can do to achieve your goals, while being present, open, loving and caring about yourself and others. Do the work you need to do to achieve your goals, while being connected with yourself and with your inner guidance. Do the necessary loving actions to accomplish all that your heart desires, while being unattached to outcomes. Books by this author via huffingtonpost.com

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Sheenie Ambardar, M.D.: 6 Surprising Ways to Be Happier

As a follow up to my previous post in May entitled "10 Ways to Improve Depression and Anxiety Without Meds," I thought I would offer up a few more suggestions on how to live a happier and more contented life, gleaned from my years observing and treating patients as an adult psychiatrist. The following six ideas may seem counterintuitive at first blush, but bear with me -- you might find a kernel of truth in each that resonates with you:

  • Make Less Money

    Yes, you read that right. Work fewer hours, make less money, live in a smaller house, do work you like, have fewer possessions, and enjoy life! While this idea may run counter to the Great American Way of Life, where materialism and money rule the day, the inescapable fact of the matter is that all the shiny objects in the world won't make you a happier person. As a corollary to this, if you hate your job and it's contributing to your depression and anxiety, you probably shouldn't be doing it, right? I know life may not always seem that handily straightforward, but in reality it always is; you have a choice! Is doing work you dislike, simply because it pays well, any way to be spending the beautiful days of your life? As writer Annie Dillard so logically put it: "How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives." How would you like to spend your life?

  • Don't Get Married

    Now before you call the cops on me, I'm not suggesting that you never, ever get married or settle down, but please, please only do so if you are 100 percent sure, deep down in your own heart, that it is the absolute right decision for you and your life, (and not because it's the next to-do item on your Life Checklist). Unhappy unions, relationship strife, marital discord, feelings of claustrophobia in bad marriages -- this is the stuff of psychotherapy and psychiatric visits across America every day. I often remind patients that marriage isn't a panacea for everything that ails us; it's a serious social venture, one that involves very serious commitments of time, energy, money, and emotion. Of course, there are great and wonderful rewards that can accompany it too, like love, companionship, and long-term security, but don't automatically discount alternative lifestyles or ways of living that may be more suited to your individual nature, like that of the single bachelor or bachelorette. Just like not all human beings are naturally heterosexual (a concept that wasn't widely accepted even just 50 years ago), not everyone is built for marriage.

  • Be Selfish

    Now I've always been a firm believer in having compassion, empathy, concern, and care for our families, friends, and fellow human beings, but never at the expense of ourselves or our own personal fulfillment. It's interesting to note that depressed patients are sometimes labeled selfish or self-absorbed by unsympathetic observers; I've actually found just the opposite to be true. Most depressed patients I see have forgotten how to be selfish, how to truly look out for No. 1. They sweep their own wishes and desires under the proverbial rug, all the while attending to and ministering to the needs of others. If compassion and kindness are virtues to be lauded, why don't we start by being compassionate and kind to ourselves? It's only when we first look out for our own personal needs that we can then take care of the needs of others. So go ahead, take that sick day at work, plan your next mini-vacation, switch careers, get out of that bad relationship, ask a family member to pitch in at home, or teach your children to fend for themselves... it's okay to be selfish!

  • Be Ignorant

    Is it really essential that we know the nitty gritty details of what's going on in the world at all times? Does it make us feel any better or improve our lives in any tangible way? The humongous information overload we experience on a daily basis from television, Internet, radio, movies, magazines, newspapers, iPhones, etc. is rapidly turning us into a frenzied, harried, emotionally-insecure society, unable to relax and find peace within. A 2010 study published in the <em>American Journal of Preventive Medicine</em> declared that TV watchers were more likely to be anxious and depressed than their non-TV watching counterparts. Likewise, numerous studies have indicated that people who watch less TV are happier and more engaged in life than avid couch potatoes. Sounds about right, doesn't it? And if you think about it, why should we concede control over our mental well-being to the 24-hour news cycle, with its sensationalized rhetoric and incessant chatter? I don't mean to suggest that we throw away our TVs or laptops or never go to the movies (entertainment has its own psychological value after all), but media overexposure may be contributing more to our low mood than we as a society are consciously aware. Let's try ignoring our gadgets and gizmos every once in a while... we just might have to find something else to do with our time!

  • Have Fewer Friends

    True friendships, the kind that sustain the test of time and space, are precious and few and most of us will be really lucky if we can count them on one hand throughout the course of our entire lives. Perhaps the sooner we accept this reality the less likely we will be to feel disappointed or despondent when people don't measure up to our grand expectations. Let's try to move beyond the constant need to be surrounded by an endless stream of people and things; let's learn to be happy and content on our own. This may be the single most important skill we can develop in cultivating true inner happiness. Of course, we can't deny our inherent social natures, and humans will always have a need for one another -- but quality always trumps quantity, and spending time with the wrong kinds of friends or acquaintances just to fill a void may actually end up doing more harm than good. Are you worried about being alone if you pare down your friend circle? As Dr. Wayne Dyer so wisely put it: "You can't be lonely if you like the person you're alone with." Brilliant!

  • Never Try To Fit A Round Peg Into A Square Hole

    Always remember that you are the lovely round peg and the square hole is any job, profession, person, relationship or experience that doesn't feel quite right to you. You can jam the peg into the hole and try to make it fit, and sometimes it even manages to get wedged in there pretty darn good, but not without considerable discomfort and heartache to the peg (you). You will be so much happier and at peace if you develop the fortitude to wait patiently, choose wisely, question broadly, and only accept good things into your life that are truly worthy of your time and energy. And it's never too late to start along this path -- whether you're 30 or 70. Your reward will be a life well-lived and a sense of freedom and liberation that only comes to those willing to experience life on their own terms... you can do it!  Follow Sheenie Ambardar, M.D. on Twitter: www.twitter.com/DrAmbardar via huffingtonpost.com

 

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Sunday, October 14, 2012

Viral Mehta: Servant Leadership: Helping People Come Alive

In an ancient parable, three masons are sitting in a row, all chipping away at large blocks of stone. A woman observing them is curious about what they're up to. She asks the first man what he's doing, to which he responds, "I'm chipping away at this block of stone." Indeed, she thinks. She questions the second man similarly, who says, "I'm working to feed my family." Also true, reflects the woman. Finally, she questions the third mason, who responds, "I'm helping to build a beautiful cathedral."

Read Peter Drucker's What Makes an Effective Leadership

It's a powerful perspective -- holding within it a value for collaboration, agency, creativity, and meaning. What if we all could see our work in that way? What if our organizations supported us in holding that perspective, and to go one step further, how can we create institutions that release these core values? In his seminal 1970 essay "The Servant as Leader," Robert Greenleaf coined the term "servant leader" to describe someone who has that interest. For such a person, "It begins with the natural feeling that one wants to serve, to serve first. Then conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead."

A servant leader -- one who wants to serve first and lead second -- strives to create a work environment in which people can truly express these deepest of inner drives. Servant leadership entails a deep belief that people are the greatest asset any organization has, and to nurture their individual growth becomes the basis for all organizational development. That growth goes far beyond the limited dimension of financial benefit -- it dives into our core motivations as people.

In his book Drive, best-selling author Dan Pink talks about the evolution in our understanding of what really motivates people, especially in our professional lives. According to Pink, the latest behavioral science research points to three key drivers: autonomy, mastery and purpose. Another way to frame this is empowerment, perfectibility, and purpose, and servant leaders endeavor to create a culture that fosters each of these three intrinsic motivations:

Empowerment:

People want to be engaged and also have some level of control over their environment. A servant leader recognizes that the people doing the work generally have the best ideas about how to improve the processes they participate in. Through tools like rapid improvement events and PDCA (Plan Do Check Act) suggestion systems, servant leaders practice participatory decision-making, empowering employees to be innovators and co-creators in positive change. Such leaders are also enablers; they spend a significant amount of time at the workplace, making direct observations, and then striving to create systemic improvements that add value to the work of their employees.

For a concrete example of this kind of engagement, in "Improving Healthcare Using Toyota Lean Production Methods," Robert Chalice reports that Toyota Corporation employees globally generate 2 million ideas a year. And they come from all over -- more than 95% of the workforce contributes these suggestions, with each person submitting over 30 ideas each. Even more importantly, over 90% of these ideas are implemented. Leaders who understand how to unleash this kind of creativity build systems that support idea generation. But this kind of empowerment is also grounded. Servant leaders promote learning by doing and testing iteratively in a scientific way, and they demonstrate accountability. It's a great example of assuming value in all people, which soon translates into a scientific, transparent system for everyday improvement, which in turn fosters a culture of continuous perfection.

Perfectibility:

Perfect is a verb -- and every person can tap into an intrinsic drive toward perfection. A carpenter can strive to be a perfect craftsman, a nurse looks to provide perfect care at the bedside, and Michael Jordan was known to inexorably seek the perfect shot. The role of servant leadership is to create a culture and context in which that inherent drive toward improvement is channeled in a way that benefits the whole. If people are engaged in perfection as a journey and not a destination, then they are constantly looking for ways to innovate.

This brand of innovation follows a very conscious design philosophy -- one that is inherently collaborative. All of us are smarter than any of us, as the adage goes. Far from being a cold, individual, strictly rational process, servant leaders design highly collaborative systems that balance the scientific method with in-depth engagement of people from all levels. They also actively break down silos and promote a shared view across functions and departments: in healthcare (where I currently work), that view is: "how can we maximize the real value to the patient, and as they move along the care delivery stream, what improves their well-being?" In that sense, servant leaders have a worldview of interdependence, and recognize that they have to own the entire value stream (including suppliers and partners), on behalf of the patient.

Purpose:

In the words of Picasso, "The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away." In healthcare -- and especially in serving the underserved population -- it becomes all the more important (and necessary) to create structures that enable us to give in concert. Atul Gawande, the famed surgeon-author, uses a sports analogy to urge modern healthcare (though it's easily generalizable) to evolve from "cowboy medicine" to "pitcrew medicine," referring to the unbelievable preparation, synchronization, and seamless way in which a pit-crew services a race-car in the thick of intense competition. If a pit-crew can deliver flawless results in less than 12 seconds, imagine what a team of people can do longterm in the service of better care for all.

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At the root of such collaboration is still each person's own connection to greater purpose. Civil Rights leader Howard Thurman said, "Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." Perhaps that is the essence of servant leadership: to facilitate people in coming alive. Interestingly enough, when we support people in tapping into that part of themselves that is most alive, then their most selfless motivations surface. So people who've come alive are naturally amenable to working in a collective.

In this way, by supporting people in finding purpose, servant leaders inspire true, collective service. And it's all done invisibly, such that people can truly feel that they are each "helping to build a beautiful cathedral." In the ancient words of Lao Tzu, "The Sage is self-effacing and scanty of words. When his task is accomplished and things have been completed, All the people say, 'We ourselves have achieved it!'" via huffingtonpost.com

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Deepak Chopra: The Use and Misuse of Gratitude

 

Once a self-help term becomes shopworn, it needs to be refreshed. I think this is true of terms like faith, compassion, unconditional love and gratitude. Let me address the last one. How is gratitude a useful expression of spirituality? No one argues that it makes others feel good if you are grateful, but is that useful to their personal growth and yours? Many people find it much easier to give than to receive, for example, which makes it hard for them to feel grateful when they are on the receiving end of a gift, favor, appreciation or love. They look embarrassed and uncomfortable instead.

Until we get to the bottom of why gratitude is so hard, we cannot really understand what gratitude actually is. A few points need to be made.

  1. You are genuinely grateful when your ego gets out of the way.
  2. Real gratitude isn't passing and temporary.
  3. Gratitude takes openness and the willingness to set your ego aside.
  4. No one is grateful for things they think they deserve. Therefore, gratitude is unearned, like grace.
  5. When it is deeply felt, gratitude applies to everything, not simply to goodies that come your way.

These points focus on gratitude as a state where "I, me and mine" has been set aside. In a grateful state you are vulnerable, as the ego sees it. In reality, this feeling of openness must exist in order to receive grace, love, beauty and inspiration. More than one painter and composer has thanked God formally, knowing that there is a higher source -- something beyond the isolated individual -- that brings inspiration. There is a spiritual reason for such a sense of receiving from "on high," and it doesn't need to involve God or religion.

I'm talking about connection, feeling joined to and upheld by a higher intelligence. "Intelligence" is a more neutral word than God, and to me a more appropriate one, because we all possess intelligence, and if it suddenly expands or brings us an unexpected gift (such as insight, inspiration, a creative leap), it's only natural to feel grateful. You know at those special moments that something beyond your control has made itself known. The ego dislikes this loss of control, which is why you see people frown when surprised by a sudden gift or even the unexpected words, "I love you."

So the state of open receptivity needs to exist before gratitude has any spiritual usefulness; that connection is precious. Of course, there is polite gratitude, a social gesture that is nice in its own way. There is the gratitude of survivors who have narrowly missed death and disaster. There is passing gratitude for getting satisfaction from extra money, status, possessions and praise. All of these things count, but not nearly as much as gratitude for your very existence.

That kind of gratitude is truly spiritual, since it sets up a feedback loop -- the more grateful you are, the more your soul can give. Herein lies a trap, however. I recently caught a TV thriller set in a prison where a convict tells the warden that he is spiritual but not religious. The warden asks him to explain. "You can speak your mind," he says, and the convict replies, "Spirituality is for those seeking understanding. Religion is for those seeking reward." If you use gratitude as a ploy to get more gifts and gains (We are all guilty of this at one time or another), you are not experiencing a soul connection but an imitation set up by the ego. The ego is always out to get more, and if gratitude oils the machinery, all the better.

Will gratitude help you form a soul connection? This isn't a "fake it until you make it" issue. Gratitude, being a virtue, does help to put the ego in its place. A few moments of humility is all to the good, for anyone. But in a way your discomfort when being at the receiving end will prove more useful, because it indicates that you have obstacles and resistances to move inside yourself -- if you can resist sweeping your embarrassment under the rug but use it instead for self-examination, then the true bonding with your higher self begins. via huffingtonpost.com

 

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Thursday, October 11, 2012

Mel Robbins - F--- YOU - How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over #Relationships #Career

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Must See Video on Living In Gratitude and Happiness In Times of Stress

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Why Richard Branson Gave $400,000 to an 18-Year-Old - How to Be An Entrepreneurs #Startups

Why Richard Branson Gave $400,000 to an 18-Year-Old

 

It was around 10 a.m. on June 13, 2011 when 18-year-old Stacey Ferreira needed a break. She and her brother, 20-year-old Scott, were busy building an online password storage portal out of their apartment in Los Angeles. Ferriera fired up her Twitter account and immediately noticed a tweet from Sir Richard Branson.

The British magnate and founder of the Virgin Group wrote that any of his followers willing to donate $2,000 to his favorite charity were welcome to attend a cocktail party with him in Miami and included a contact email at the end of the message.

Ferreira wasted no time. She e-mailed Branson, telling him that she wasn’t old enough to consume alcohol, but would still love to meet him. Hours later, she received a response. He wanted to meet her, too, as long as she could fly to Miami and donate $2,000.

The event was in just two days and without disposable income, the sister and brother secured a $4,000 loan from their parents with the promise of pay them back by the end of the summer. They boarded a plane less than 24 hours later.

Meeting a Tycoon

Nearing sundown on June 15, a dressed-up Ferriera and Scott walked into Branson’s party at the Versace mansion on Miami Beach. A bouncer ushered them into a room with 18 other people. When Branson entered, Ferreira jumped at the chance to chat with him.

“I was the first person to introduce myself; I told him that my name is Stacey, I am 18 years old and I have a business,” she remembers.

Ferreira and her brother explained their company, MySocialCloud.com. The site operates as a password storage space in the cloud where users can auto-login to every password-protected site they use. It also enables the sharing and organizing of bookmarks.

Branson was immediately intrigued.

“We ended up chatting the whole night,” she says. “He was genuinely interested in what we were doing and was the nicest person ever.”

The party extended to the following night at South Beach’s Raleigh Hotel. It was then that the siblings exchanged contact information with Branson and promised to keep in touch.

Attracting Investment

Ferreira and Scott returned to Los Angeles high on excitement. They dove into work and reached out to Branson frequently. In August, Branson put them in contact with Jerry Murdock, a Colorado-based founder of Insight Venture Partners. He then promised to match any investment Murdock made, penny for penny.

After several phone conversations, Murdock flew out to Los Angeles to meet the MySocialCloud.com team. As Ferreira says, he “grilled” them about plans for the future and the health of their business. At the end of the visit, Murdock invited Ferreira and her brother out to dinner.

“It was at dinner that he told us that he wanted to invest $400,000 into our business,” Ferreira says. “After the meal, we went back to the car, pinched ourselves and asked, is this real? How did this ever happen? We were stoked.”

Murdock and Branson’s investments came through in August, an amount that helped Ferreira and Scott move to into an office and hire employees.

Since then, Alex Welch, founder of Photobucket, has also invested—at Murdock’s recommendation.

Growing rapidly

Today, Ferreira, 19, and Scott, 21, run a nine-person team out of their Los Angeles offices and regularly keep in touch with Branson. When the company released its beta version in February, they notified him over email. Two days later, he walked through their door.

“We weren’t expecting him to come; we didn’t even have a party,” Ferreira says. “But he was passing through L.A. and stopped by to say hello. It was great.”

The team plans to officially launch by the end of the summer. Regardless of how big they get, though, they plan to stay close with Branson.

Ferreira says, “We used to watch our grammar when we would e-mail him, but now we can send casual one- or two-liners.”

Advice for Teenage Entrepreneurs

Teenage entrepreneurs: have faith. Ferreira recommends asking people for help while you are building your business. She networks through Twitter and then transitions her contacts into Google chat conversations.

And never give up.

“No matter what people say, just go for it,” she says. “So many people told us that we were too young to succeed. If we had listened to them, we wouldn’t be where we are today.”

Katie Morell is an independent writer and editor based in San Francisco specializing in business, travel and human interest topics. Her work has appeared in USA TODAY, Hemispheres, The Writer, Destination Weddings & Honeymoons, Chicago Tribune, Chicago Sun-Times and many others.

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Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Portable Faucet Aims to Clean the World's Water [VIDEO] #causes #Charity #givingback

For Kim Chow, a trip to Lima, Peru, proved to be a concerning one. Chow found that the people of the 30,000 Cerro Verde slum were storing water in 55-gallon drums on the street, making the town more susceptible to water-borne illnesses. She also discovered that water was 14 times more expensive than what households in other towns were paying for tap water.

Chow and her classmates at the Art Center College of Design wanted to find a cheap solution for the town’s needs; so, they developed the “Balde a Balde” (Bucket to Bucket). The portable faucet pumps water from the water drums through an adjustable nozzle, so residents can save water by alternating from light or heavy streams.

SEE ALSO: 5 Tech Breakthroughs Bringing Clean Water to the Developing World

 

The faucet is also a way to encourage kids who couldn’t previously reach the drums to consistently wash their hands before eating or after using the toilet.

Rubbermaid is teaming up with Chow to start production of the faucet, and hopes it will change the lives of the 780 million people worldwide currently without access to clean water.

Watch the video above to see the faucet in action.

What other tech gadgets and projects you know are helping improve people’s quality of life? Tell us in the comments below.

 

 

Monday, October 8, 2012

Play Nice, Fight Fair - How to Build a Healthy Relationship and Career

Play Nice, Fight Fair

By the time I married, I’d already been an entrepreneur for several years, but I did bring my spouse into the business… or tried to, anyway. The experiment was short-lived, something that would not surprise David and Jamillah Lamb, business partners, spouses and co-authors of Perfect Combination: Seven Key Ingredients to Happily Living & Loving Together.

So how does this happily married couple keep the peace on the stage, behind the scenes and at home? They follow the motto “Love like kids; act like adults.” That means combining the joy of being spontaneous, playing together and exploring with taking responsibility for one’s actions. “Don’t say, ‘We never go anywhere,’ ” Jamillah advises. “Take responsibility for going somewhere!”
Jamillah says a lot of couples see working together as doubling the opportunity for conflict in a relationship, and that can be true. But she says, “It also doubles the opportunities for growth.”

How to Love Like Lambs (David and Jamillah Lamb, That Is)

The authors of Perfect Combination: Seven Key Ingredients to Happily Living & Loving Together share a few tricks of the trade:
  • Let go of the desire to be in control. If one of you does something better than the other, then play to each other’s strengths. Don’t worry about gender roles. If your husband loves to cook, let him do it. There’s no reason you can’t mow the grass if being outdoors is more your style.
  • Appreciate each other, and remember to show it.
  • Pay attention. If you notice something is difficult for your partner, then don’t force her to do it. Notice what she likes to do and what motivates her. “Pay the same attention to each other as you did when you were courting,” David advises.
  • Don’t take the business home. “One of the things we had to learn was not to bring anger or frustration we felt against our employees into our relationship,” David says.
  • Praise first. Even if you have to criticize your spouse, watch how you do it. Point out something he does right first.
  • Learn to disagree without being disagreeable.
  • Take time apart. Cultivate relationships, hobbies and joy outside of the partnership. Maintain your identity as individuals.
  • Let the little stuff go. Take a step back and remember the bigger vision for both your marriage and your business.

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Saturday, October 6, 2012

How Leaders Can Increase Growth Through Bottom Up Feedback.



By the time you become a senior executive, you have no doubt honed a set of skills and talents that enable you to be effective in your job. To help you get to this point, you likely had coaches and mentors who closely monitored your progress, prodded you to develop your talents, and, when necessary, confronted you with criticisms that you may not have wanted to hear but needed to hear in order to continue your upward path.
At this stage in your career, most (if not all) of your colleagues are probably subordinates. While you may be “overseen” by a board of directors or very senior boss, your superiors probably no longer closely observe your daily behavior. Instead, they now form their opinions of you based on your presentations in relatively formal settings or on secondhand reports from your subordinates.
As a result of this, many executives find that as they become more senior, they receive less coaching and become more confused about their performance and developmental needs. They may also become increasingly isolated from constructive criticism—subordinates do not want to offend the boss and may believe that constructive suggestions are unwelcome and unwise. Many senior executives also unwittingly send off a “vibe” that while they claim to encourage constructive criticism, they really don’t want to hear it. At this stage of their careers, they may not have focused sufficiently on developing mutually trusting subordinate relationships that would make getting feedback and advice a lot easier.

Too frequently, when these executives ultimately do receive feedback in their year-end reviews (often as part of a 360-degree-feedback program), they are surprised to be confronted with specific criticisms of their leadership style, communication approach, and interpersonal skills. Worse, they may also hear broad concerns raised about their strategy, key tactical decisions, and operating priorities for the business. These leaders may even learn, often too late, that the various criticisms and concerns have been widely discussed among their subordinates for an extended period of time without them being aware.
I have certainly experienced and observed this phenomenon over the past 25 years in my own executive career and also in working with numerous executives since coming to Harvard Business School. I have seen the tendency for senior executives to become more isolated from constructive criticism and strategic advice—sometimes without their full awareness. As a result, over the past several years, I have worked intensively with my own direct reports and advised many other senior executives to develop specific approaches for getting the essential feedback they need.
The purpose of this article is to distill these approaches into specific and actionable advice. In doing so, I hope to make you more aware of the tendency to become isolated and suggest approaches to getting better feedback, particularly from subordinates, that will help you to materially improve your performance. I will also discuss further steps you can take to get dramatically better strategic advice regarding your business or nonprofit organization. By taking these actions, you should be able to take greater ownership of the feedback process and improve your ability to build your organization, capabilities, and career.
Cultivate a network of junior coaches
One of the first questions I ask senior executives is, “Who is your coach?” Many respond with a list of mentors who are outside the company or perhaps on the board of directors. These are “mentors” (versus coaches) because they do not directly observe the executive. Unfortunately, their advice is only as good as the narrative provided and often doesn’t adjust for blind spots or the mentor’s lack of professional familiarity with the executive.
My follow-up question—“Who actually observes your behavior on a regular basis and will tell you things you don’t want to hear?”—is often met with silence.
This was the case with the CEO of a medium-sized pharmaceutical company. He complained of having a difficult time getting consensus among his senior-leadership team on several key strategic decisions. These included which early-stage drug compounds to develop and whether to develop them through joint ventures or by going it alone. Such decisions were enormously consequential due to the substantial capital required to develop and get FDA approval for a new drug. The CEO believed these issues required a high level of consensus, as they had an impact on every department of the company. He thought highly of his senior-leadership team but was becoming quite frustrated. He asked whether there might be a problem with his leadership style or, alternatively, if he should consider replacing one or more of his senior executives. Some of his close friends and outside advisers had suggested that a senior-team shake-up might help the situation.
I asked him whether he sought coaching from his subordinates. He responded, “Of course not; they’re the subordinates—it would be awkward for me to ask them for coaching. I’m the coach!” When I asked him what was wrong with seeking coaching from subordinates, he thought long and hard and explained that, during his career, he seldom had observed his bosses and senior-executive role models make themselves vulnerable enough to seek feedback from their direct reports. He also wasn’t sure how he would do it and believed that this would make his subordinates (and him) uncomfortable and possibly disturb the boss/subordinate hierarchy.
Despite his reluctance, I urged him to go out and individually “interview” at least five of his direct reports. He need ask only one question: “What advice would you offer to help me improve my effectiveness? Please give me one or two specific and actionable suggestions. I would appreciate your advice.” Although hesitant, he agreed to try it.
These conversations were awkward at first. The first responses indicated that he was doing “fine” or even “very well.” It took time, prodding, and waiting out some uncomfortable silences to convince his subordinates that he was sincere, truly wanted feedback, and was serious about acting on it. In the course of this initial round of conversations, the CEO received some surprising, jarring, but very useful advice. He learned that:
  • He was perceived as someone who seldom asked questions of subordinates. Some of his direct reports admitted that they had assumed he didn’t care what they thought.
  • He was widely seen as a poor listener. When subordinates came to speak with him, he usually did most of the talking.
  • He was viewed as quite “guarded”—not revealing much about what he believed were the key issues facing the business and what worried him. People commented that they weren’t sure how to read him and “didn’t know where he was coming from.” He realized that his subordinates often misinterpreted his actions.
  • Lastly, his leadership meetings were procedural and reporting meetings rather than sessions in which issues were framed and debated. As a result, his senior leaders seldom had the opportunity to debate and discuss issues with each other (unless they initiated meetings on their own). This made it difficult for the group to agree on which drugs to develop or to decide how best to develop them.
While the CEO was widely perceived as a brilliant strategist and creative thinker, he was not yet seen as an effective manager and leader. Much of this was surprising to the executive, who said he hadn’t previously heard these observations from any of his mentors or bosses.
He began to act immediately on a number of the criticisms. In particular, he arranged to reach out to each of his direct reports on a regular basis for specific advice (and encouraged them to do the same with their direct reports). He also established monthly leadership team dinners where the senior-executive group could candidly discuss and debate key issues.
After three months, the CEO was able to break the group stalemate on several important issues, including getting agreement on two new drug targets and specific approaches to developing each drug. During this time, the CEO had led several sessions where the members of the group wrestled with these tough questions and, importantly, came to better understand each other, as well as the CEO’s vision for the business. Through open debate and discussion, the team members developed a greater respect for the challenges that each of them faced in their individual areas of responsibility. As a result, they began operating as a more cohesive unit.


In the course of these steps, the CEO also focused diligently on strengthening his own “soft” relationship-building skills, including self-disclosure, inquiry, and listening. He had long believed that a strong leader needed to be a bit guarded and a strong advocate. Now, he realized, it was time for him to revise this view and recognize that an outstanding leader is willing to reveal information about his or her values, background, and thoughts—as well as to ask good questions and be a skilled listener. While advocacy had its place, the CEO observed that his team responded much more constructively when he explained his own uncertainties and concerns, asked well-framed questions for debate, and actively listened to the discussion. He learned that these “soft” approaches were critical to getting better feedback and becoming a better manager.
He put these skills to use at his senior-team dinners, where he played the role of facilitator—framing two or three issues, forcing himself to sit quietly and actively listen, ask probing follow-up questions as appropriate, and generally ensure that team members expressed their candid views. This took considerable practice, but the CEO ultimately became a very effective discussion leader of the group.
In individual meetings, he worked hard to ask more questions, listen more (talk less), and disclose more about what was keeping him up at night. For example, he revealed his growing concerns about the high cost and uncertainty of the US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) drug approval process. By framing questions about how the company could avoid “betting the ranch” in developing individual drugs, the CEO helped his team better understand why he had been pushing the concept of joint venturing and ultimately crafted a consensus on the need for this approach on at least one of the company’s new drug-development projects.
Above all, this CEO learned that asking for advice and coaching was a sign of strength rather than weakness. Using these techniques, he now found that he could rely more heavily on his subordinates for advice and as an early-warning system for his own performance. Furthermore, as he and his senior managers began to understand and trust one another, many shared with him their own career aspirations and concerns. Indeed, this had the impact of stabilizing his senior-leadership group, helping the CEO retain members of the team and generally improving morale. As a result of all these efforts, he now reported feeling far less alone and isolated. While he regretted not having taken this approach sooner, he was optimistic that he was now on the right track.
Push feedback further: The ‘clean sheet of paper’ exercise
As CEOs and other senior leaders strengthen their networks of junior coaches and build better relationships with subordinates, a broader culture of coaching and learning can take root in an organization. Employees at various levels become more motivated to give upward feedback when they see that it has a direct and positive influence on both senior-leader behavior and company actions.
Building on this progress, CEOs can take further steps to getting valuable input on key strategic questions. This is essential in a constantly changing world where industries and customers evolve and businesses can easily get out of alignment. In many cases, external shifts may be difficult for senior leadership to recognize, and otherwise vocal employees at the “point of attack” may not feel sufficiently informed or empowered to voice their views. In addition, existing strategic-planning and business review processes may not surface and confront these issues in a sufficiently timely and effective fashion.
Consider the experience of the CEO of an industrial-products company who was worried about the potential erosion of his company’s competitive position. This CEO was widely respected in his company and industry and had done an excellent job of developing strong upward coaching relationships with subordinates.
The company had been built around a group of high-value-added products and several follow-on innovations, and had built very strong customer relationships over many years. However, the CEO was growing increasingly concerned that key competitors had taken specific actions that would strengthen their value propositions to his customers. He was also concerned about the commoditization of some of his company’s legacy products. He believed that dramatic changes might be needed to meet these threats but feared that potential remedies—shutting down product lines, selling businesses, and restructuring how sales and product development interacted to serve customers—might damage the organization’s culture and morale.
This CEO’s concerns raised questions that went beyond typical coaching. Further, he believed that the issues were too substantial and even controversial to be adequately handled by the company’s regular strategic-review discussions and processes. Because his leadership team was closely knit, he sensed that senior leaders were walking on eggshells when they debated these issues—they were hesitant to be perceived as criticizing colleagues or unintentionally offending the CEO. He admitted that his senior team might be “too close” to the issues to recognize and propose appropriate actions. He even wondered whether it was too emotionally difficult for them to face what needed to be done.
The CEO decided to take an unorthodox step. He created a task force of six senior and midlevel up-and-coming executives and challenged them to look at the business with a clean sheet of paper, asking: “If you had to start this enterprise from scratch today, are these the markets we would serve? Are these the products we would offer? Are these the people we would hire? Is this the way we would organize, pay, and promote our people? What changes do we need to make, given our distinctive competencies and strategic aspirations?” He gave them six weeks to complete the assignment (in addition to their day jobs) and impressed upon them that there should be no “sacred cows” and that they should not worry about being “politically correct” in their findings. He also explained that, while he might not adopt all of their proposals, he wanted to hear each of their recommendations and ideas.
Six weeks later, the team came back with several bold recommendations. The team suggested divestiture of two aging product lines that, up until then, had been considered off-limits by the senior leadership because they had once been run by the CEO and were seen as part of his legacy. They also suggested a number of organizational changes, including building out the sales and customer service functions, developing (or acquiring) an upgraded emerging-market distribution capability, and realigning the company’s compensation incentives.
The CEO was astounded by the audacity of the advice—and surprised that he completely agreed with it. He realized that he might have been too close to the business to recognize what needed to be done and felt liberated to get these specific proposals. As a next step, the CEO had the task force present its findings to his senior-leadership team, which agreed unanimously with the recommendations and immediately began working on plans to implement them.
One year later, the CEO reported that the changes were difficult but had substantially strengthened the company. He felt much more confident about the company’s future and the strength of his leadership team. Further, he decided to launch a strategically focused “clean-sheet-of-paper” task force every one to two years to complement the company’s regular strategic processes. He and his leadership team believed this new approach would allow them to create a fresh intervention capability that wasn’t subject to the potential inertia and political pressures of the regular strategic processes. Further, this exercise created an opportunity to challenge up-and-coming executives and see them in action, while providing participants with a highly motivating learning experience.


Four ways to get started


This approach builds on efforts to create an upward coaching environment for senior leaders. It allows you to get coaching that is grounded in the strategic needs of the business and is also an excellent way to take a fresh look at your company. It reinforces the need for leaders to have the courage to frame the right questions and ask for help from their people. This type of approach, combined with strong individual coaching processes, can help build a powerful competitive advantage for your organization.
The approaches in this article are intended to help you take greater ownership of getting feedback and should complement the 360-degree feedback process or board review processes that your company already uses. While 360-degree feedback is very valuable, it typically occurs at the end of a year and therefore often lags in highlighting key issues. In a fast-changing world, you need a more active approach for getting coaching and real-time advice. While some of the activities suggested in this article (see sidebar, “Four ways to get started”) may feel awkward at first, I would encourage you to overcome some initial discomfort in order to take greater ownership of getting feedback. By developing this mind-set, you will improve your ability to ask the right questions, as well as dramatically upgrade your effectiveness and the performance of your organization.  via Mckinsey